Free Advice is Injurious to Health

Irony is that everyone knows this, still keep on spreading the virus of free advice.

• It starts as soon as you get ahead of your academics in school and thinking what to do next.There will be 10 aunties and 5 uncles and 2 neighbors left and right of your house starts poking their long, tall noses around your goals. Their advice is susceptible to “Market Risk” and your parents will advise you to “read the document carefully” before you make your mind. But in 80% time we hardly make our minds , rather take up a stream where money come easily in 4 years (read Engineering) or get goofed up totally and collect forms from all reputed college, to wait a little where you get summoned for Bachelor in A-B-C-D .

• ·         Then just after you pass your last semester and thinking to join (you may have multiple offers in hand) X-Y-Z multinationals, your Kittu Aunty suddenly remembers your innocent beautiful face. She calls your mother and say “You know I get so many proposals for your daughter, even one guy is from USA! His mother wants to meet us. Now that your daughter has completed her Graduation………” . And the record continues.

• ·         Now after 4 years, you work in a reputed MNC and already changed your job twice. You are leaving  ‘alone’ in a 1BHK, visit your native twice a year, shop for yourself, in weekend go out with your friends, you pay the house- rent, you pay the electricity bill on time, pay tax for Govt. Of India and at the end of the day you take a very good care of yourself. You are 28 and you smell young, you feel young, you dream young. Still, people thinks just the opposite “Oh You are 28, if not getting married now then when???”, “She looks a little dark, may be because of that not getting good alliance”, “she is gaining weight, after this too tough to get a nice ‘rishta’ for her”,”Beta, understand now, in our times, at 28 I had 3 kids, see you..!!”,”Do you have boyfriend?” etc etc. I mean the questions are endless. Your independence becomes the hot-topic , until some other girl like you replaces you. You can’t breathe in a fresh air where there is no matrimony fragrance. Nobody cares you are successful, but everybody cares that you are “helplessly alone” and about the chances that nobody will marry you.

• ·         Now you are married. People give you break for first couple of months with the extravagant question “How is your married life?”. Once you spend 6-7 months, again those of excited friends or friends of friends, curious colleagues  ,meddlesome relatives, will appear in your life-cycle. It starts with a gentle hint “Now you guys should settle down gradually”, then after a period of time it gets exaggerated. Whenever you meet, they will ask you to invest in properties, to change  your job, to buy a car now, enough of travelling in bus, organize your expenses and so on. It ends up with family planning as well. Your Kittu Aunty is back again over the phone calls and will not ask “when are you planning” ,this time she rather asks ” Why you have not planned till now!!”

I mean, give me a break!!

Why can’t we all concentrate in our own lives and try to make it better. And if still we have spare time out of it, can’t we do something good to others, rather staling others’ lives by giving free advice? How can my neighbor realizes what do I want in my life? How can my Kittu Aunty tell me when to buy a house if I AM earning the piece of bread for myself, not she is? How can somebody tell me what is my destiny if they are not walking with me every day? How can X-Y-Z people advise me how to pursue my dreams when that person has no knowledge or perception about that?

Everybody has his/her own dreams which that person sees with open eyes. Everybody lives his/has life, which is owed only to his/her parents for bringing to this world, but not to anybody else. 

I would say just love your life, love your dream, love the way you are, love the way you fail and again you rise up to success,love the way you are thinking of yourself, pay attention to what do your heart says more than what the person next to you thinks about you.

Statutory Warning: Free advice is injurious to health.  Stay away from this. Stop donating this.