Monday, 16 February 2015

Why does a woman climb 100 extra stairs, while a man only 10 ?



When I am a Woman :

I wake up in the morning, stopping  the roaring alarm clock and waking up the snoring husband, I rush to the kitchen.
Start with putting the milk in boiler, cutting veggies for lunch, washing rice and grinding masala and juicing up the fruits and whistling up the daal in pressure cooker.
In the meanwhile the clock ticks 9 and I serve breakfast in table, pack lunchbox and fruits in office bags.
While he sits for breakfast I finally get a chance to brush my teeth and looking for any urgent mails/messages.
Finally, once he leaves for office I get my own sweet time for super quick breakfast and getting ready for office.

I reach office at 11. Start reading incessant unread mails in inbox. Run into the task list and head to the laboratory door. Work very hard, try to keep my work unquestionably good always.Try to finish up my work by 6 , but it always gets delayed till 7.30.

I come back home at 8. Threw the laptop bag in a corner. First thing to think -what to prepare for dinner and then for next day lunch as well.
Fill the water bottles, clean the room, whisk up the dinner and serve hot to family.
Till 11 PM at night, I would be managing left over food in fridge, gas-knobs are switched off, windows are closed, mosquito repellants are working, things to throw inside washing machine, electricity bills are paid, enough stock of food in fridge, any immediate grocery needs attention and so on..
  
And in weekends the list is endless, planning the grocery list, cleaning house, attending visitors at home or being visitor to somebody’s home, keep in touch with  relatives & if get li’l time then pursuing high time ignored hobbies.

Now if I were a boy :

I wake up and with a big yawn, head towards to washroom. Brush my teeth with half closed eyes and grab the newspaper or switch on NDTV.  Then I have breakfast and leave for office.

I work hard in office. I reach office by 9, before anybody comes. I start checking mails and then straight head towards the to-do list. Complete my work by 6, sometime it gets delayed till 8. 

When I am back home, I switch on Arnab Goswami, yelling “the nation wants to know the truth” and I too want to know. I listen to songs, watch the movie trailers, finish reading news from tweeter feeds, chat for a while on FB and watsapp.
Then I have dinner, warmer the nicer and check the office mails again. Finish any pending office work from home till I am awake. Execute some script and leave for overnight execution. Anyway tomorrow morning I am going to reach early.


And still,

  • ·         There are endless jokes on hundreds of common Indian television comedy  shows – how marriage ruins the life of a man.. how a woman creates a virtual jail for him. How an Indian woman talks / behaves/ laughs/ cries/ fights  at home . “Ghar Ghar ki kahani”
  • ·         The Indian soap saga – most of the vamps are either business tycoon of a famous business emperor or a secretary. Have you ever seen an ideal bahu becomes the business tycoon and still retains “ideal bahu”  position in the serial? Think think.


  • ·         There are hundreds of questions, sharp or blunt – always being asked to woman – “ will you continuous to work after marriage” , “do you cook at home or your husband <with a polite ha ha ha>”, “poor he, does not get time to spend with his wife”,“ why have you not called me for such a long time, always busy & busy”  , “girls go to office only as a hobbies, not for money or ambitions. why do you stay late there”, “if girls also become so passionate about job, who will bear the child and bring them up”, “please don’t run behind all these beta”



  • ·         I remember one of my ex-colleague saying – girls always enjoy the privileges at home and work. At home, you get extra privileges for being a working woman, and at work you always escape late evening work by “showing off family concerns”. Really we are privileged.


  • ·         At the time of appraisal, from office or from home- of course these factors play a key role. If you work 10 hours a day   and over weekends and over public holidays – management is happiest and you get rewarded. But your family will always frown at you, as you are somebody’s wife/ mother/ sister/ daughter/ daughter- in – law and when you come back home with a yearly bonus, only few of them actually understand the prize you paid off.


  • ·         I see so many mothers carrying their child on lap and leaving them in nearby play school- so that they can keep visiting often from office. I see so many promising engineers leaving their job after their child starts growing up, for a quality parenthood.


I have never seen a man in a home-maker or baby-sitter roll, but I have seen many women as home-maker & as parent & as good team mate & as excellent manager & as business tycoon roll.
Amazing. Isn’t it ?




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